Every couple deserves to live in a home that they both love. Unfortunately, for most that is easier said than done! Decorating a home that both he and she approves of requires a lot of compromise and patience. Trust me, I speak from experience!

That’s why when Joss and Main invited me to curate my first-ever Apartment 34 collection, I jumped at the chance to share what I’ve learned!!

Launching at 9:00 pm ET today, we’re hoping you’ll find the perfect yin and yang balance with our Joss and Main His & Hers Curated Collection.


First, let’s do a little breakdown of masculine and feminine design.

In more masculine rooms, there tends to be neutral and darker color palettes. Furniture lines are clean, streamlined and are often more modern. You’ll tend to find different finishes of wood, varying from dark to light with chrome accents and modern art on the walls. And you can bet on finding a leather piece in there somewhere!


Feminine rooms are usually a bit more colorful. Tufted and velvet pieces of furniture are often combined with delicate glass, gold or brass accents. Obviously, vases and flowers are a must. And you are likely to find pattern and texture interwoven throughout the room.


Here are some styling tips and our hand picked favorites Joss and Main collection to help you create a gender neutral space that you both want to live in!

Tip 1: Start with a more masculine base. This means wall color and big pieces of furniture should be in a neutral color palette. You also want to stick to clean lines and stay away from anything too curvy. This really helps to set a more neutral tone in the room. Just remember feminine pieces speak much louder than masculine ones!

Tip 2: Bring in texture and pattern in accent pieces. Think a patterned rug and accent pillows. Drape in a cashmere throw on the sofa or add a pop of color in an accent table. A more modern chair upholstered in glamorous velvet is a great compromise accent piece.

Tip 3: The third layer should involve more feminine touches. A vase of flowers instantly brings femininity to the room. Just remember feminine pieces speak much louder than masculine ones. So for as many gold vases and pretty bowls you bring in, be sure to add a masculine touch to juxtapose the feminine lines. Think industrial objects or a vintage toy.

Here’s an example of a fabulous space that both he and she should totally love.


Love the look as much as we do?!

Starting tonight (and only until Saturday!), shop our Joss and Main Collection to grab the pieces that will work in any home and are guaranteed to be a hit.

If you shop the sale be sure to come back and tell us what you bought!

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  1. This is an excellent point you bring up. We think about balance in our relationships all the time, but so often we forget how our spaces can affect our relationship too.
    Great tips for keeping the gender balance!

  2. I love, love, love this look – and this post! As evidenced by my blog, I tend to go toward a dark, romantic look and I often think about how glad I am that I live with my husband, because otherwise I’d go over the top. Since we work together to decorate our home, I’m always thinking of how to blend our tastes. Luckily, he has a good eye so it’s not too difficult to come up with a cohesive space that reflects us both.

  3. Love these looks…especially the room with the fuchsia sofa. Good luck with your Joss and Main event. I’ll be checking it out!

  4. You have a good point. My wife and I often fight about this kind of things. I know she would like that pink sofa, but I don’t understand why someone would want a sofa like that. It’s like from a cartoon. I mean it looks good, with all the other things surrounding it, but just the sofa – I don’t think so. But the example you posted at the end of the article is much more/our style. I can imagine our compromise there: “If you want this rug, I want white walls, no pink or blue, or yellow.” It would work.

  5. I agree, create a masculine base which is by default more neutral and then work your way up to a feminine by adding patterns, textures and colors as a refreshment, nothing too much